1.   Make it a quality time.  Parents should be around with the child’s experience.  They should interact with them while exploring with the advanced technology and internet activities.  If you join a child, you share his joys of new understanding and accomplishments. 

2.   Select good software.  Choosing good software gives importance to your child’s age, abilities, interest, likes and dislikes.  This is very necessary for his or her skills development.  There are lots of educational sites to guide your child to optimize learning with the help of technology and internet.

3.   Get computer game activities.  Games should be linked to real-life circumstances and activities.  Motivate children to connect their games to life’s experiences. Games will enrich children with vocabulary in many different fields. They will learn how to analyze logically and become alert in their visual and mental abilities.

4.   Identify various activities showing kid’s interests.  While using technology and internet, help your child build up his talents and skills that will best benefit his over all growth.  You can expose him to drawings, images, paintings, videos, fashion.  Or you can offer options for cooking, working, doing sports—the list actually is never ending. 

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While technology and Internet make more parents sign up daily, more children shy away at the idea of adding a parent as a “friend” on their Facebook account.   In this present day, more have formed support communities to use this new trend of social networking. If your child is 21 years old, accepting a mom or a dad on Facebook is probably to lower his or her calmness quotient.  You become a Big Brother, and your kid’s friends will perhaps edit their messages and images.  They’re afraid of being viewed and criticized.

This is the problem going on in your child's brain when a friend request from mom or dad pops up. Accepting parents would mean danger of being separated by their peers.  Ignoring them means there’s a threat of getting grounded.


Parent's DO's and DON'T's on Facebook

1.   Make a close relationship with the kid.  The most horrible thing you can make is surprise attack your child.  Discuss with your kid about Facebook prior to signing up.  Know how they would feel about being your friend.  Put up some limitations like not writing on their Facebook wall which could cause any embarassment. 

2.   Ask your child to assist you set up your account.  This becomes a quality bonding time for both of you.  Normally, the younger the kids, the more they know about technology and internet.  Not only it benefits the parents, it also gives a way of becoming a friend on your kid’s network.

3.   Never get hurt by denial.  If your child says he’s not comfortable to accept you, then make efforts to be brave.  This won’t be the last part of the world, though.  Trusting your kids allows them personal privacy.  If they accept parents, children may feel like having them listening to their phone calls.  It is simply uncomfortable although other children never mind it at all. The rejection may hurt, but you still can connect in other ways.

4.   Realize some restrictions.  In short, if your child accepts you as a friend, don't automatically think you now know everything about him.  Facebook lets users to restrict some images and messages. You may be both friends, but some images and videos may be restricted and you can’t see all the crazy and wild messages.

5.   Create a network with your friends.  Try also to connect with your friends.  Facebook has a search engine where you can easily find long-lost friends.  Just type their names or email address.   Warning: this is extremely addictive.  You’ll see yourself trying to recall the name of your 6th grade friend. It’s great when your "friend" request is accepted. Facebook is indeed a social networking site for you.

6.   Monitor children's activity in the internet.  This is an across the board application, not only on Facebook.  For tweens, it's recommemded to put the computer in an open area where you can view their internet activities.  They can lock you out from knowing everything they have on Facebook, but you can see in their monitors how they work online.

In this generation, Facebook is a great social networking site for you and your children.  But don't anticipate for it to progress much your relationship.  Use this latest technology and internet to connect with your friends on Facebook.   As for connecting with your children, save that for every day activities with them!


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Despite the modern generation, and the many latest innovations to make life easier and faster, stress remains troubling our lives, especially parents.  That’s why the term “multi-tasking” is commonly used and heard in every home.

Under many circumstances, parenting is truly stressful, more so when mothers or fathers always undergo pressures and anxieties.  You may have a child or five children, and you work outside or just stay at home.  All parents have 24/7 period to finish their jobs.  This multi-tasking process is very demanding and exhausting.

 Most mothers do the household chores like preparing meals, helping in homework, getting their children off to school, doing office work, and others.  The 24 hours can just go by and they're wondering why time is so fast.  Parents don’t seem to have accomplished anything.

Today is a very busy world; do something to keep yourself in balance.  Don’t just hurry around the entire day, with nothing to enjoy for yourself.  Here is what to do in your multi-tasking jobs:


Use a Daily Program and Keep It

1.   Using a day-to-day schedule and keeping it will help alleviate pressures.  A fixed schedule shows you’re a systematic parent in terms of running your life and your home.  Most of the household troubles come from disorganized tasks and stuffs inside the home.  The more things you handle every day, the more systematic and structured you should be.

2.   In setting up your schedule, make sure to incorporate all the activities you do daily.  These include meals, housework, bedtimes, and activities after school.  Make it a daily routine as much as possible. This schedule is good in handling multi-tasking jobs.

3.   Get up and go to bed regularly and at the same time.  Using a habitual waking up and sleeping time can definitely reduce stress.  It promotes peaceful sleep and it’s conducive to health. Studies show that children are healthier and tend to behave more when they get accustomed to certain habits.


Use Family Time Management

1.   Take time together.  Most parents do feel that 24 hours is not really enough for them.  Compared to the amount of time spent in simple cooking or pulling out board games, you use less time doing them than talking on your mobile phone, watching TV, playing videos, etc.  If both parents and children could take time together, it becomes a time to bond together and de-stress themselves.

2.   Know also your priorities.  Certainly, it is the family’s needs that should be given main concern. The busier you are, the more you should spend quality time with one another.  Once or twice a week is good enough. Why? Because doing so will help you cope with the daily hassles.

Very busy parents doing multi-tasking jobs deserve a quality break.  It recharges the mind, body and spirit.  If you’re a busy parent who gets annoyed all the time, then give yourself a good thing.  You deserve a good favor—take time to have a break and make fun.


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Many husbands and wives are quarreling parents; they lose their patience easily.  They always end up into enraged emotional fights and shouting.  Without any intentions, quarreling parents showing the scene in front of the children will harm the latter’s mental condition.  Little kids generally are very sensitive that’s why it’s easy for them to get affected by their parents’ warfare.

 
Think about the Children

Marriage displays its ups and downs, very similar in a normal relationship.  Marriage is no bed of roses. Quarreling parents occasionally is a vital part of this game.  They may ignore their parenthood when it comes to fighting each other.  They throw devastating words reciprocally that hurt both of them. Worse, guiltless children are not spared of this psychological and emotional effects resulted from the fight.

Children basically are receptive, very sharp-eyed and alert.  They are fast to pick up about pressures and tensions.  Despite this, young children are not yet ready to grasp things realistically.  They are not smart at identifying the cause.  Hearing loud yelling and slamming the doors, they wonder, “is it because of me?”

The world of children does revolve in the activities of parents.  A father and a mother serve as protection and security for the young.  Supposedly, they must give constant sense of confidence that their love is unsinkable.  Grumbling of hostility between  quarreling parents will leave a feeling of insecurity to children.  They find feelings of uncertainty and think whether the fight has something to do with them, the children.

Tips for Fighting Parents

Here are some tips parents need to consider when fighting:

1. Do you want people to watch your embarrassing fight?  Put yourself in the shoes of your little children.


2. Take time, each of you, to calm down before talking about the big problem.  When dealing with anger, counting 1 to 10 is a proven effective technique.  Never settle a dispute when angry.


3. It is not helpful when the two you would fight by fire.  Voice raising, door slamming, or putting blame on the other partner will aggravate the situation.


4. If issues need to get resolved, wait until the children are asleep.  Never let them hear quarreling parents and what is it you’re fighting for.


5. In case you have big fight in front of them, let kids understand that they are not to be blamed on such condition.  Explain further that sometimes parents fight, but still they love each other.


6. Explain that losing your temper is a work of mistake, and that there are many things said that both parents really don’t mean. It happens because they’re both angry.


7. Do your best as parents to reconcile as soon as possible in order to display unity and normal front to the children.

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