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Six Tips to Raising a Happy Child

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What makes a happy child? All parents want nothing but the best for their children. One day we want to see them as loving persons, reach their dreams and be successful.  Most importantly, we want them to be happy and enjoy life.  But the question is how much do we control our children and block the opportunities for them to be happy?

Research shows that happy, well-behaved children are the product of happy and optimistic homes.  What can parents do to generate a home where your child's happiness will flourish? Read on these 6 tips to help develop your child's ability to experience joy and happiness:


1.   A happy child knows his parents are excited about him. 

Let your child view the light shine inside your eyes when you see him. Be mindful of his presence by showing him your smile and warm greeting.  Speak his name aloud.  Children long to hear and feel validation from their parents. Wouldn’t you love to see a person’s face glow as he enters your room because he’s happy for you? Your child loves you the most.  Think of the returns when a child receives such happy affection.


2.   Help him know it’s fine to get bored sometimes. 

As parents, it’s your normal instinct to entertain your children every time they wake up.  It goes on for the rest of the day.  So if we let them get bored and we rely on television, we limit their growth and development. Bear in mind how children possess great imaginations that flourish upon nurturing. But without the opportunity to persuade their creativity, they won't be happy and growth will not happen.  It only frustrates you not to find a happy child.  So let your children’s idle minutes develop their creativity with hands-on activities.  Help them stimulate their imaginative thoughts.  A few pieces of paper and some crayons can keep a happy child busy.

 
3.   Let the child understand he is more important than your work. 

Your children won’t just need your presence; they need your happy connective actions with them.  Why not play with your children and interact with them.  Ask some questions and listen to their answers, it’s the best way to interact.  Your child is waiting for a few minutes where you are not busy with your email, mobile phone and Facebook.  Allowing your children know they are important is like giving them the insulin to be happy.  It makes sense to create a happy child if your work becomes secondary only.


4.   Allow your child to make a couple of rules. 

You’re not making them the boss of the house; let them feel empowered once in a while.  Oftentimes, the struggles with our children are the direct results of them feeling they’re just followers. Parents could control these situations by allowing them feel they’re part of making house protocols. By giving your children some controls, you’re helping them understand household rules. This will lead straight to their willingness to obey.  Help them feel they have the right to give suggestive house rules.  Makes sense for a happy child, doesn’t it?


5.   Don’t think the child knows everything, so teach him.   

The job of parents is home schooling their children to be happy.  Whether your children go to a private or public school, it is essential that parents are the ones to fill in most of their growing needs.  There are skills not taught in school that should be learned in homes.  Growth should include the packaged deal: physical, mental, social, emotional, and spiritual.  Over time, your children will leave you and you don’t see them anymore.  What they need are sharpened tools that will help them become the best persons they can be.  It makes a happy child to leave your parental support because you prepared him to live independently.


6.   Display acceptable behavior for them to copy. 

In general, this is the most important factor on the list. Children do what they see from parents, not as they’re told to. If you want your child to be generous, first you got to be generous to others. If you want you want a happy child, parents must always wear a smile on their face. There is no one more influential to your child than you, the parents. Their trust is in you, so don’t ruin this trust.

How to raise a happy child?  It is not that easy but this is one thing that must be done within a family.  Once you focus on the child’s needs, you’re doing all you can and your efforts will be rewarded. Every parent can have a happy child, fortunate to have been raised in a loving-environment family!


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    Children Hate their Parents: 5 Valid Reasons Why Children Dislike their Parents

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    While there are many things parents don’t like about their kids, there are also valid reasons why children hate their parents.  It is illogical for parents who perceive that they are the only ones doing right and their kids are always the ones doing wrong.  Effective parenting is a two-sided relationship.  Both parents and children must work hand in hand in order to make their relationship grow.  There should be no opportunity to provoke and hate one another.

    In this modern generation, one of the family issues is that kids don’t anymore respect their mothers and fathers--they hate them.  But how about us, are we aware that we should also respect and not hate our kids?  Often, parents complain about their children’s acts of stubbornness and disobedience.  Consequently, kids can hardly respect their parents and they tend to hate them instead.  Truth is many parents overlook their responsibility of nurturing their kids in caring ways.  They only see the authority they use to controlling them.  This sounds unfair for the kids, doesn't it?


    Basis why Children may Hate Parents

    1.    Over-protection does more harm than good.  Allow your child to discover new things on his own. Over-loving parents tend to over-protect their children in many ways--this can make kids to hate them.  Keep in mind that while a child continues to grow, he attempts to discover many things around him.   All kids have this natural inclination.  For younger boys, climbing up a small tree excites them.   You can provide useful tips on how to climb safely rather than restricting him.  So when the child climbs up again, he knows there are precautions to take. Children could hate a parent who is over-protective.  

    2.    Unfulfilled promises.   There are situations that parents do promise things for their children.  The kids with all their efforts do their part.  When time comes, parents provide lots of excuses to break their promises.   If this happens, young kids may begin to hate them.  They won’t be convinced anymore that you can still keep your promise.  These unfulfilled promises are instilled in the child’s mind.  It is a hurtful experience when the people they trust can't keep their words.

    3.    Frequent scolding is hateful.  You break their heart if you respond negatively while attempting to offer their help.  Kids want to please us in some small ways they can do, but how we ignore and hate their efforts.  Worse, they get unreasonably scolded rather than being appreciated and praised.  A husband and a wife are responsible to guide them into doing things right, not to verbally hate them when they create mistakes.  Be realistic that kids are too young to live by their parents’ standards.   Illogical anger is one thing kids hate about their parents. Parenting skills know how to discipline children without yelling and reprimanding.  

    4.    Paying no attention.  There are times kids want to be proud of their own accomplishments.  They want their parents to get their approval and that they are achievers, too.  Never ignore your child’s great art work if he shows it.  It builds his self-worth and confidence if parents become happy for them.  On the contrary, children may hate their parents if you don’t always pay attention to their efforts.  They will have the impression that their works are not important to you.  Wouldn’t that be hateful for the little ones?

    5.    Not doing what you teach.  Parents want their kids to be action doers but not for them.   This is one reason why children have the feelings of resentment.  They keep instructing their kids not to fight but aggressive blows are displayed by the father and mother.  Giving explanations is not helpful, showing your action does.   It is confusing for children not to fight if parents are quarrelsome and hate each other.  Kids view their parents as role models in every circumstance.

    Although parents have the goals to go the other mile but it’s more likely for children to hate their parents for the above valid reasons.   So express your love by trying to avoid things they hate and  dislike.  For sure, you can win them back and earn their respect!



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    All-Time Parenting Styles: Which One is the Most Effective?

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    There are still four popular parenting styles and approaches being practiced in this modern age: detached, permissive, authoritarian and authoritative styles.  Despite the modern lifestyle and living, there are actually no new approaches to update the parenthood mechanism.  These four styles still exist today because they speak more of the parent’s life, behaviors and perspective—far away from what the technology offers.

    Just like in traditional times, they remain applicable in our days and in the future:

    1.   Detached – Disconnected parents will grow up neither challenging nor receptive.  Children are treated with carelessness and unawareness of their basic needs: love, discipline and quality time.  Consequently, sons and daughters will develop higher degree of behavioral difficulties including psychological problems compared to children of their age. 

    They don’t feel worthy of their parents’ love and attention.  They always long for warmth hug, touch coming from the people they trust.  Detached parenting style creates a negative impact to innocent children about their importance in the family.  This will carry on as they grow up to be adults.

    2.   Permissive – Lenient mothers and fathers have unmanageable capacity to control their children’s behavior.  There is inconsistency of obeying home rules and regulations.  Children may or may not decide to go after the rules, and the extent is not clear.  What they understand is that they can do whatever behavior they want to.  Rules are vague and formless that’s why children are inconsistent in being disciplined.

    What is permissive parenting?  Permissive parents bring up bad-mannered, destructive, bold, and immature offspring.  They possess insecurity in behavior because they are short of guidelines necessary to direct right behavior.  Role reversals normally occur: children are the ones giving orders and parents just obey them.

    3.   Authoritarian – Parents do implement strict, rigid rules.  Their expectation from children is total obedience without any further questioning.  A child is forced to absorb family principles and practices.  Most of the time, they impose physical retribution and abandonment of love to form the kind of character they want their children to develop.  Parents like these are regarded as strict disciplinarians.

    As a result, sons and daughters become sad, frightened, annoyed and have mood swings.  They also develop low self-esteem, withdrawals, timidity and other poor personality traits.  Because of withdrawn love, they generally become rebellious or threats to the society.

    4.   Authoritative – This is the most effective parenting style that produces autonomous, happy, loving children.  They demonstrate value for the child’s feeling and opinions. They listen and attempt to get their children’s views and discuss them appropriately.  Although parents have the final authority to decide, they still permit some negotiations. 

    The principles of the authoritative parenting style are firm.  They show love and discipline as opposed to being powerful.  They are likely to be demanding and approachable.  They explain certain rules.  Some benefits are deprived if children may disobey, instead of punishing them.

    There will always be modern innovations, improved technology, gadgets and devices that are launched in this generation.  All-time parenting styles are the bases for successful or unsuccessful parenthood.  How your children are shaped and formed to be what they are in the future will depend on what parenting style you’re applying to them now.



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