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How Technology and Internet Separate Parents from Children?

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 Do you wonder how technology and internet is separating parents from their children? Is it becoming more difficult to turn off your life from this present condition in favor of your kids and family life?    

Nowadays, almost everybody is totally linked with technology and internet and parents can’t almost switch off their gadgets.  They reach for an iPhone or BlackBerry first thing in the morning and the final thing in the evening, and countless times during the day.  Parents visit their Facebook page to see more updates and they become gradually changing their lifestyles to social networking.

We get involved so much in technology and internet without realizing how much we may ignore our little children.  But our kids observe our actions all the time.   Our children can view our reliance on the internet, mobile phones and other new gadgets.  It is evident how many people are becoming more distant because of the present technology and internet doings.  Worse, our effective and natural communication has diminished.

No wonder why younger kids and tweens are emailing and texting just like professionals; technology and internet has made these things possible.  Parents trained them to do it.  We trained them the value of these communication gadgets: how to use a mobile phone, text, email, use on-line.  All these things can’t just be taken for granted.
How surprising it is to realize that most parents now have lost the capability to literally connect with their children.  Parents pass the buck by saying it’s the kid’s mistakes.  With these technology and internet, kids are the ones whose ears are plugged with ear buds and eyes fixed on computer monitors.  But like virtually all things they do, they got trained into these habits from the parents.  Kids' lack of communication comes from a parent’s missing communication which is diverted to technology and internet activities.

It is perceived that parents have not indeed lost the desire to connect, train and love their kids.  It is actually not knowing how to make links to bond with their modern children.  Unfortunately, our fast increasing technology and internet activities have made a disconnected communication between parents and their kids.

What better tips to re-open the communication lines between parents and kids than to go back to the old traditional family quality time bonding.  Probably the most important guidelines for disconnected parents is to begin smiling, hugging, conversing with your children.  This could be done by prioritizing your kids' needs and putting aside technology, internet, gadgets, and computer.  These may not be enough for your children but at least kids will realize parents give them more importance than their inbox and phone calls.

No one can deny it, it’s already the technology and internet world that make people driven.  Parents and children within a family are involved to this phenomenon.  However, there are still things which the internet and technology cannot do nor replace: it is the natural way of communicating with children with parents embracing, touching, and kissing them.


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How TV Affects Your Children -- Tips on Parents about TV Programs

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Today is the generation where media affects children and parents are incredibly caught by surprise.  Movies, TV programs, music, internet, mobile phones, other gadgets—all of which have invaded and influenced the lives of many people all over the world.   Kids in particular are the ones benefiting most from this.  A couple of questions to ask: How television affects children? Are the present TV programs good or bad for them?  What is the great impact of TV to children—from local to national to global type of TV programs?

Issues related to TV programs 

First.  Research studies do indicate that quarreling in TV programs can encourage critical physical behavior in young kids.  On TV programs, this is portrayed as acceptable behavior.  By watching these actions, television affects children; they become less sensitive to it in general.

Second.  Kids see hundreds of TV commercials each week.  Few parents could or should buy all the products that commercials teach children to want.  This is one way how television affects the children.

Third.  If television is set is on all the time, TV programs watching can easily become a habit that is hard to break.  Kids need a lot of leisure-time hours to explore on other activities rather than on TV programs alone.


What should parents do?

1.   What parents need to do is limit the amount of time children spend watching TV programs, to avoid them spending too many passive hours.  Don't let long hours on television affects your children.

2.   They need also to monitor the quality of the TV programs.  A number of TV programs are filled with useful information and provide excellent opportunities for the kids, but others prompt undesirable thoughts and feelings in children.

3.   Kids differ from each other in their reactions to the same show, depending on their particular sensitivities or reactions to what they’re watching.  This is also one major factor how TV affects the children.

4.   Be alert to those TV programs that seem to prompt negative responses in your kids, such as excessive anxiety, sleeplessness, bad dreams, increased fears, or stronger behavior.

5.   Tell them how television affects children and what will be the right programs to watch.  Consequently, they will understand why you are restricting their TV programs viewing.


Make TV programs advantageous to Kids

1.   Help them to be critical and evaluate the TV programs they do see.  This will increase their thinking skills and help them to be less gullible.  This way, television affects children positively.

2.   Ask how they would feel if they were treated the way some of the characters are treated.  Tell them when you find something unbelievable on TV programs and seek their opinions.

3.   Many serious problems are presented, explored, and resolved within the brief time block of TV programs.  Discuss how rarely this would happen in real life. Explain them how television affects children like them.

4.   When your kids ask for products seen on TV programs or commercials, buy one and let them compare the difference between what the ads promise and what they actually deliver.  Commercial on television affects children.

Parents should have active participation to know how television affects their children.  As responsible parents, you can make it an enriching experience for them.  With your guidance, your kids can become informed consumers. You can actually teach, train and discipline them by being selective in TV programs they’re watching!


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    Parenting : How to Train & Discipline Children in This Modern World

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    Children training and discipline is a parenting theme that has been angrily discussed in current years.   A great deal of this reason came from the term 'discipline.’ This displays a portrait of difficult and cruel punishment in the minds of most parents.  Undeniably, the dispute has made many parents of today to choose and accept a parenting approach that is “extremely permissive.”

    We all need training and discipline in our lives.  However, parents have to know what is good and bad behavior, and what things to do and not to do.  We also recognize that there are lots of things in life to do, even if we don't want to.

    What to Do in Training and Discipline

    1.   Truth is none of us is born with self discipline and training.  This is something our kids have to learn early and regularly.  As for the parents, appropriate training and discipline must be something they should know first in order to teach their children.

    2.   One lesson parents have to find out is that training and disciplining kids is done individually. Remember also that one parenting style that works for a child does not essentially become suitable with another child.

    3.   Parenting styles should help to realize that training and discipline requires a link to a child's degree of understanding. In most part, this is a role of age.  But remember each child develops at different rates.   So it’s crucial that kids' needs are to be taken into consideration.

    4.   Any response to bad behavior has to be fitting to the age of children.  Response given in training and discipline should be effective for the individual child. Understand why there is a misbehavior--mostly, kids are in need of missing attention that's why they do it.

    5.   Children training and discipline is not all the time acceptable if it only highlights punishments.  For kids this isn’t going to work.  Teaching them a lesson will always go a long way; imposing punishment will scare them.  However the training and discipline lesson parents are teaching them is not well understood. 

    6.   If a parent is angry while training and disciplining the child, the kid comprehends not the lesson but the anger.  It's the anger which is very exhausting but not helpful that instilled in the mind of a child.


    Applying Logical Consequences

    Alternatively, the use of “logical consequences”--proven to be an effective form of training and discipline--won’t require lots of emotional energy on parents. This makes sense to children, too.  Our kids don't need punishment but unconditional love. What punishment, in any form, cannot do to the kids, love will always do.  Try to link discipline and training to a logical or natural flow.  Thus, it enables parents to choose the most suitable type of children training and discipline.  

    Learn this, parents: Our kids are given to us for protection and love.  Along this is the parenting responsibility to raise them the right way.  It 's our role to figure out the best parenting approach to apply.  It starts with loving them unconditionally. The training and discipline you give should always involve in loving and not hurting. No matter what, they deserve to be loved and respected like adults. This is what parents are called for.


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    Children Parents Relationship -- Tips to Making Kids Feel Special

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    Will your children suffer because they have a busy working mom? Will children be deprived of time and love? Is children-parents relationship one of the big family issues now? 

    Many successful and happy people have been brought up by career moms. So having a busy mom is not a guarantee that children will be left unattended. What they do and don’t do will depend on the outcome of the children and parents relationship.  Parents should understand if a busy career becomes a stepping stone or a stumbling block that obstructs children parents relationship.

    There’s no truth to say that children whose mom works are more deprived than those whose mom is inside the home.  Often, stay-at-home mothers are busy like anyone in this world.  If they feel guilty and worried that their children are deprived, most likely the children will feel the same.

    No matter how hard it is to improve children and parent relationship, offer opportunities to progress and learn. Highlight on those opportunities to make the best of your present opportunities then make kids feel they’re special: 


    Keys to Expressing Busy Mom’s Love

    1.   Express your love through hugging and kissing.  It’s the fastest and easiest way to show your love.  No matter how hectic your schedules are, there is always time for this 4-second kisses and hugs.  Make it a significant kiss and tight embrace to both lift your spirits and improve your children parents relationship. 

    2.   A hug and a kiss could be the most powerful action to stop bad behaviors.  Try this next time you feel exhausted or your kid’s whining.  Do this in the morning, when you go back home, a number of times in the evening, a warmer and longer one just before bed.  In children and parents relationship these are most needed.


    Schedule Weekly Family Togetherness & Meeting 

    1.   Thirty minutes each week is a little relationship time investment yet with huge payoffs.  Children feel they’re special when parents listen to them and when their ideas and suggestions are recognized.  This is the instant payoff.   

    2.   The other payoff is that children and parents can resolve many day-to-day troubles and family issues during the meeting. Your children can help do morning and bedtime routines and show up creative manners of managing chores.  Modern children are much more willing to implement on plans they have helped create.

    3.   The long-term payoff is that kids are trained for life and communication skills including problem solving skills. It takes less time to schedule weekly family meetings from which kids learn to assist and work out on relationships and problems.  On the contrary, it may create family issues when lecture, nag, and reprimand are given focus.

     
    Ask for Children’s Help

    Today, children and parents relationship is very crucial. What kids want is to feel needed by their parents.   It is much different when you ask for help in a nice way rather than reprimanding or lecturing. "I would be thankful for anything you can do to clean up the room before going to bed" is more effective than saying, "How many times did I tell you not to scatter all your stuff?" Kids feel good when they can help in their parent’s multi-tasking jobs. They don't feel special when they are being scolded and put down.
     

    Give Short Special Notes

    Write a 2-minute note for your child's pillow, lunch bag, or mirror.  One very busy mom made a decision to place a note inside the lunch bag of her daughter daily for one year.  While aboard on a plane, she would take time to write few notes such as “Every day, I think of you, I wish I were with you, I love you, Sweetie." She would give the notes to childcare person to put it in the lunch bag every day.  Her daughter felt incredibly special.

    Being busy because of multi-tasking jobs should not be one of the family issues. Helping kids feel special is a matter of being creative in your children parents relationship.  It must involve a creative habit but not lack of time in relationship.  The benefits of doing it regularly is to ensure that your children feel they're very special!   


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    Modern Children: Are They Hard to Discipline Now?

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    Is there a discipline guide for children in our present time? Is it really hard to discipline modern children nowadays? How can they be compared to old generations? 

    Those who were born during 1990’s have really lived an entirely different world compared to their parents.  Indeed, parents grew up with a TV set and other home-based equipment. But to make a comparison between today’s undersized screen and the older generation of three decades ago, is like matching old mobile phones of 1980’s Dyna TAC Motorola with this day’s innovations.  

    In our time now, children learn both visually and mentally without necessarily transmitting the transcribed words to mind picture. This was not the same with what their parents did before. 

    Applying the traditional discipline on the children for this generation has, in certain degree, some merits.  However, some original approaches should be changed to fit today’s way of living.  

    What Our Time Does to Modern Children

    1.   An average child in US spends thirty hours in front of a TV for the whole week.  Imagine how this time of watching influences their thoughts, understanding, and exposure of the world surrounding them.

    2.   Another modern aspect that controls their growing years is the non-availability of a parent.  Today, not only fathers go to work even mothers should work to sustain family needs sufficiently.

    3.   In day care centers there are terrifying news about the degree of attention given to children. Deficiency of parent’s love and interest result to a young child’s emotional weakness. There are abuses and unfair beatings of unloving strangers.  They develop low self-esteem because they can’t trust their parents to raise them up properly.

    4.   Insufficiency and inferiority—a couple of factors to work with between the ages of six to twelve.  It’s the crucial stage where certain talents and skills are developed, both in work and in social life.  Failing to develop the right adulthood transition will result to more complicated life for them.

    5.   Because of deprived time and love, children most likely will become irresponsible and immature people upon reaching the stage of adulthood.

    How to Cope with the Relationship

    It has been and will always be difficult for both parents and teachers to handle such cases. Consequently, teens express rebellion and reactive struggle as their way of ignoring parents.  The stronger pressures we apply, the more they retreat and fight back. If a husband and a wife attempt to impose discipline to modern children of today, parents will need more patience and understanding. 

    As a result, it is so prevalent that a variety of unaccepted behaviors in children have developed.  Parents most particularly are in great struggle trying to correct their children’s attitudes virtually every day.  It is tiresome and sickening to cope with this on a daily basis. As parents and educators, we should try to win back their trust and confidence by being true and caring parents.  Jokes and humor dialogues will bring in better output than reprimand or punishment.

    It is in re-building relationship that will bring us closer again to our kids and then discipline will be easier and come naturally.  Don’t let this modern time and technology shape their young thoughts and emotions.  Keep the all-time effective discipline for children that shows love, care, understanding and ample time to our growing kids.






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